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I have a friend who recently joined a poker site from my link. He has been telling me how great he’s been doing and telling me he has won and cashed out. However I see a string of deposits made, plenty of turnover, and some profit for me. But I feel bad for the guy, because he keeps pumping a bunch of money in, and only playing a short time. Here’s my delema: Should I tell him next time to STFU and stop lying to me about how much he won, or maybe point him to the site that pays me the best?lol Please help me. Thx.
In the long run, everyone is responsible for their own actions – which is part of your moral dilemma – your responsibility.
IMHO leave him alone and don’t say or do anything. He’s a player, he’s responsible, and friendship doesn’t really enter into business.
He didn’t play because he’s your friend – he played because he wanted to…
Congratulate him on how well he’s doing – obviously he doesn’t know about stats.
ntaus
If he is within his spending limits I would let him be.
If he is spending more than he can afford, I would talk to him.
Dominique wrote:If he is within his spending limits I would let him be.If he is spending more than he can afford, I would talk to him.
I’m with you Dominique on this one. I’ve heard the same story from my sister and I know better. Which is why it’s my policy not to turn family or friends onto my sites. People that gamble are going to gamble whether it’s your site or someone else’s. I personally would have to much guilt when they ran into proplems financially knowing that I gained from it. Just my $0.03
IT’s not really a moral problem as long as your friend is being sensible.
I certainly would not tell your friend that you can track their play – that would result in embarrasment and probably a bit of a fallout.
:huh:However :
I might tell them that you’re pleased that he/she’s doing well.
Point out that the table rake system means that only about 35%-40% of poker players actually win when they start playing …
and that some players start off playing at tables that are too high for them and often lose regularly and have to keep depositing money in order to keep playing …
… instead of being smart and dropping down the stakes to play on easier tables and make a profit while they learn the subtle differences in online poker play.
sigh.gifIf you REALLY need to lay it on thick then suggest that THIS is what YOU had to do.
:thumbsup:
It’s a gentle way of getting your friend to re-evaluate what they are doing – without exposing what you suspect is really happinging.
:angel:and if your friend does not modify their play .. well … “a fool and their money …”
Leave your friend alone and let them enjoy themselves as long as it doesnt become a problem or financial strain on them. If you see that happeneing then by all means advise them to check out Gamblers Anonymous or a similar resource that is equipt for dealing with problem gamblers.
The good news is MOST people will spend just enough money to get pissed off then quit playing and NOT develop an addicition.
ReDRulvl wrote:I have a friend…….. But I feel bad for the guy, because he keeps pumping a bunch of money…………….My guess is that in some way you feel guilty promoting gambling.
Your friend in this case is the incarnation of the average player suffering losses in your site and at glance this is a problem to you.I have a question.
Do you gamble?Personally I don’t sell nothing that I’m not able to consume myself.
I don’t sell cigarettes because I hate this stuff.
No problem with gamble because I like to drop some bucks in the land casinos.You all think much like my honey. She says leave him alone and praise his imagimary wins with a “high 5.”
As for me, I love to gamble. I’ll play just about any game that is not tiles pai gow. I guess what he has spent in the last week or so is nothing compared to what I just spent (lost) at Boomtown Reno just last weekend in just 4 hours. We have similar income so I guess he’s way ahead compared to me lol.
I was wondering though, would I be wise to refer him to a site that pays me the best or just wait to see if he asks for another site’s info?ReDRulvl wrote:I was wondering though, would I be wise to refer him to a site that pays me the best or just wait to see if he asks for another site’s info?Hell yeah. If he’s going to gamble anyway, no one should put all their eggs in one basket.
I’d likely let him save a little face
by not putting him on the spot, but somewhere in the world of your friendship it’s likely he has or will become aware of the fact you make money from what the casino makes and that translates into what people loose— so without pointing the finger straight at him, you could even causually talk about earning money from what people play & loose, (course if you don’t ever want him knowing this than I suppose that options out). But if he is aware of how this business works than you could still put it out there and let him put together the dots to realize you likely know what he’s really playing and loosing, Which would allow him to gracefully stop BS’ing you. Just MHO.Of course if he’s a really good friend he may want some back. hehehe
If he’s killing the family budget and he’s your friend tell him what the F you know. That’s my other HO and two bits.Gambling always has big fish stories. When ya catch em and when they get away. Seeing his stats is a very candid picture of that fish.
Ben
He knows I’m getting a share of his rake, but doesnt seem to care. I wasn’t sure about the privacy policy so I decided not to mention how much he has actually spent there. As a subtle suggestion to take it easy for a while, I mentioned that it might be a good idea to leave some of his bankroll @ neteller, and I would find him a nice bonus. He responded that every table he plays lately is like getting a bonus already. He is very cozy at site he’s at, so I figured to just boost his ego all I can. The “High 5” every couple of days seems to be working, because he has been playing alot.
I really like the input from all of you here at CAP, and I’m very hopefull that some day I will have help for someone here too. Best wishes to all and have a great holiday.
